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 > 每天干自己不喜欢的事情，在虚度光阴阿。

It's common that people do not like their jobs. But if you hate your job, then you need to change it. If you like or love your job, consider yourself to be extremely lucky.

I used to have a coworker whose dream was to earn enough to retire, so he can write the software he really likes to write.

> 我非常喜欢编程，原来做过一段时间java程序员（就几个月的时间），

Like programming is not enough. The important thing is whether you're good at programming. If you think you're or could be better 50% of programmers in the market, then you should consider take programming as career.

> 最后因为家里人反对，觉得还是应该在事业单位工作，这样生活有保障，

When you're an adult, you should take control of your own life. You should not let your parents make such important decisions in your life. 生活有保障 is not hard in the current society, so you should aim for some higher.

> 我现在25了，不知道在软件行业还有发展前途吗？

First you have to define what do you mean by 发展前途.

The future of software as a bussiness is very bright, especially in China. The reason is that software bussiness is still growing at a quite high rate. No one is talking about when software bussiness would stop growing. For China, the cost of software development is much lower than in more developed countries. In China, you can hire a software engineer for may be 5000 RMB. In Singapore, it may be 2500 SGD. In US, it may be 4000 to 5000 USD. So more and more software development/testing jobs will be moving to China. And software engineer salary would rise when software development in China is getting more effective.

But whether yourself would have a good future in software development is another matter. It depends on whether you have good training in math, computer science, english, and whether you can find a starting job in software development to move gradually to the state you want to be in.

> 从学校毕业时，我就想以后能当上项目经理，

Job title is not that important. What is important is what kind of contribution are you making to the society, by doing so you also are making a good living.

> 但是由于一些原因，可能是父母思想左右了我吧（他们是为我好的），

Parents can be conservative, selfish, or even not wise too. Live your own life. A life controlled by other people, even your parents, girl friend, or wife is not fun.

People normally say they want democracy. Democracy starts from you, your family, your job, your relationship with people around you. But to let your parents having less control of you, you need to be responsible first, so as to prove to your parents that you've grown up.

> 我尤其热爱java方面的编程，很想以后往J2EE方面的发展。

Setup a goal, devise a realistic plan, take actions and then revisit your goal and plan often to adjust to current situation.

Good luck.